Choose your words wisely
Part of being our best selves (which is what we all want, right?) means being cautious and thoughtful about the words we use. This is for a plethora of reasons.
Let me explain why our words matter:
What we speak becomes our reality.
The language we use about ourselves sets the precedent for how we are willing to be treated.
The words that come from our mouth inform our reputation and how we make other people feel.
Truth 1 broken down:
Thanks to neuroplasticity we can create new beliefs through repetitive speech. Essentially that means we form new pathways in our brain that consolidates new information into truths that our brain retains. So if we are not careful we can physically imprint beliefs that don't serve us into our brains. On the flip side we can choose our words wisely and imprint these positive aspirations into our psyche. And why is this important? Well it helps us to live in alignment and take the action to better ourselves when we have an empowered outlook.
For example, if you have recently retrained as a yoga teacher instead of introducing yourself and saying “oh, I'm really new at teaching. I'm just a novice. I'm not really that great yet, I barely have any classes”, simply state, “I am a yoga teacher.” Your brain hears that and believes you. Either way. Choosing to own the identity that you intentionally want for yourself means your brain will believe you and therefore help you make the decisions and take actions of that identity. You're not lying either! You have trained as a yoga teacher! So you're at the beginning of your journey… it doesn't negate your qualification. Don't rely on simply ‘faking it till you make it’, be thoughtful and conscientious about your language instead. Own the truth that serves you.
Truth 2 broken down:
How we speak about ourselves informs what we accept from others. If you say you are inferior, unreliable or unintelligent how can you blame others for treating you as such? You literally told them that you are those things! You don't have to go to the other end of the extreme and shout from the roof tops that you're a genius who should be marvelled, but you can speak confidently about yourself as someone who knows their worth.
Truth 3 broken down:
Queen Maya Angelou said it best herself. "People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
The words you use have impact. The way you speak leaves people with a feeling, and that is what lingers. Using positive language that affirms the room will make people feel empowered. Wasting your energy gossiping and slandering will leave people feeling that you are untrustworthy, or worse, mean spirited - and that feeling lingers and ultimately defines your reputation in the long run.
We can create new beliefs
As with all the guidance on offer here, my recommendation when it comes to implementation is you start small. Catch yourself in how you write in your diary. Challenge yourself to reframe old beliefs and narratives you've always perpetuated. Try new, kinder words.
Flip ‘I’m always skint' to ‘I could have more money’. More money is high vibration and inviting that into your lie and skint is doing the same. Which would you rather have more of?
That simple reframing is the perfect place to start.
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